 |
IMAGINE ~ You're
a rescue dog, in a car, with complete strangers, unsure of your
destination, and only understand a few commands given you. When
the car stops, nothing looks or "smells" familiar. You
don't know where you are, what's going to happen next, what's expected
of you, and you're completely at the mercy of those strangers because
you are restrained, plus the strangers are humans, not members of
your (canine) world. You feel anxious, stressed, overwhelmed with
uncertainties, and you are driven by your instincts to protect yourself
in vulnerable situations.
Every rescue, whether
found as a stray, adopted from a shelter, foster care, or directly
from their home needs time to adjust to their new surroundings and
environment. Even though new owners mean well, and want to share
everything with their new companions, "Everything in Moderation"
is key to the rescue's transition from "what was"
to "what is". Overwhelming rescues with "too much,
too soon" sets them up for failure, and can affect their ability
to bond with and trust a new owner. It can cause them to become
protective and defensive, or timid and fearful, triggering behavior
that could affect their future. If an owner is in doubt of what's
"too much, too soon", looking at the situation through
the eyes of the rescue will help in deciding what's best for any
situation.
DO...
...give
a rescue time and space to deal with the changes and uncertainties
in its life.
...allow
the rescue all the time it needs to scope out its new environment,
new pack, and investigate on its own.
...plan
down time, allowing the rescue to feel good about relaxing, regrouping
and its needs being respected.
...remain
a strong, but fair, leader, enforcing rules, establishing pack order,
while helping the rescue feel safe and secure.
...start
building a bond of trust and respect through leadership and understanding
...remain
consistent with rules, but always with patience and fairness.
DO ask for
help with "any and all" concerns. "Ask questions"!
A life depends on an informed owner.
DON'T...
...overlook
stress and fear a life change can trigger in any rescue. They've
been failed before, so why should they trust anyone?
...overwhelm
the rescue with "too much, too soon", as in petting and
touching, too many activities, too much socialization, and too many
expectations.
...force
a rescue into a situation it can't handle, which could permanently
damage trust of that situation, and trigger fears and/or unacceptable
behavior.
... ignore
unacceptable behavior by not addressing it immediately, but be fair
in your response, taking everything into consideration, including
the situation.
... send
mixed signals by allowing rules to be broken in some situations
but not in others.
...try to
be a buddy when the rescue needs a leader to feel protected, safe,
and secure (the buddy relationship will come later after you've
bonded and earned their trust and respect).
DON'T feel
any uncertainty is too dumb or too stupid. "Seek answers"!
Become an informed owner.
What's most important to
remember is although a lifetime commitment is made, and the rescue
will be considered a family (pack) member, live in society and share
experiences with its pack, it's still a canine driven by instincts,
and a member of the canine world. It should "never" be
forced into any situation in the human world that it hasn't been
prepared to handle. When a new situation presents itself, an owner
"must" be prepared to step in and take over as leader
or the bond of trust and respect can be weakened, and in some cases,
broken. A strong leader sees possibilities, and is always prepared
to control a situation whether it's protecting a companion from
danger, or encouraging a companion to accomplish a goal. A strong
leader, while building a bond, learns to read their companion, and
is able to walk the fine line between protecting and encouraging.
It doesn't happen overnight, in a week, or even a month, but with
patience, consistency, and determination, it will happen. Building
a loving relationship with a companion might be called "a work
in progress" because there will always be new situations, and
new adventures to share as the years go by. The stronger the bond-of-trust
and respect owner/companion share, the easier it is to face all
situations together. By allowing a new pack member all the time
it needs to adjust, the transition from "what was" to
"what is" becomes less stressful for everyone, especially
the rescue. An owner holds the key to the rescue's future, and whether
it succeeds, or is failed again.
Back
to Top
|
 |
 |